They don’t like your self-indulgence, and your insecurity reminds them of their
own vulnerability; it rattles them.
Animosity builds.
Consciously and subliminally, they sense the weakness your leaning creates.
It robs them of energy and crowds them; they have to buy into your needs and
emotions when they would prefer to concentrate on their own.
They don’t like the imposition, and often they react negatively, even if they
don’t say so.
Alternatively, they accept the imposition of your weight, but then they feel
they can take advantage of you emotionally, sexually, or financially.
They will feel empowered to use you or deprecate you or discredit you in some
way.6
Psychological leaning also violates a basic law of attraction in life:
Any person pursued runs away.
There are the three main reasons for this phenomenon:
1. Pursuit is a form of pressure. When you pursue someone, you are constantly
pressuring him for “more.” The problem is that because we all cherish our
freedom, no one responds to pressure.