To put your whole heart into stopping your break up, you must determine whether it is
a good idea to try and reverse this rejection or move on from
the relationship.
I have reviewed the strategies you can use right away to start reversing this rejection
once you are convinced it’s what you want. If reversing the rejection is a bad idea, you
will need to let go of your need to gain this person's approval, respect, or affection. This
is the key to getting over your pain.
Move On or Not?
Most of us have a hidden belief that if we are super-nice, attractive, and compassionate,
we will be able to forge a harmonious relationship
with everyone.
This is a fallacy.
The only way an extremely happy, harmonious relationship happens is when both
people are highly evolved. If you are being rejected by a person who is not highly
evolved emotionally or spiritually, I suggest you move on. It is very painful to be
attached to a person who is quite unevolved...you will be distressed or hurt on a regular
basis. If, however, you are being rejected by a person who IS highly evolved, I suggest
you continue to work on stopping the rejection. This process will both make you a
better person and bring you a quality relationship.
Note: you must be honest with yourself here. Do not decide to move on simply because
you fear rejection or disappointment.
This is a "You can't fire me, I quit!" approach to relationships. Do not let fear motivate
you when making this decision. Trying to move on because you are pessimistic will only
ensure you will attract another rejection into your life.
Evolved or Unevolved?
I've made up a 12 point checklist you can use to determine whether this person is
evolved or unevolved. An evolved person is one who has the following:
1. He can stay conscious of reality vs. avoiding it
2. He can apologize when wrong
2. He can hear and accept criticism
3. He can assert himself (not passive or aggressive).
4. He can take responsibility (vs. blame)
5. He can experience negative feelings (vs. highly suppressed)
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6. He sets and works towards meaningful goals
7. He is benevolent (has goodwill towards people)
8. He can listen (vs. self-absorbed and narcissistic)
9. He is empathic and compassionate vs. cold
10. He has a sense of humour vs. overly serious (self-pitying)
11. He respects his body vs. addictive and unhealthy
12. He can heal himself of traumas and disappointments
a good idea to try and reverse this rejection or move on from
the relationship.
I have reviewed the strategies you can use right away to start reversing this rejection
once you are convinced it’s what you want. If reversing the rejection is a bad idea, you
will need to let go of your need to gain this person's approval, respect, or affection. This
is the key to getting over your pain.
Move On or Not?
Most of us have a hidden belief that if we are super-nice, attractive, and compassionate,
we will be able to forge a harmonious relationship
with everyone.
This is a fallacy.
The only way an extremely happy, harmonious relationship happens is when both
people are highly evolved. If you are being rejected by a person who is not highly
evolved emotionally or spiritually, I suggest you move on. It is very painful to be
attached to a person who is quite unevolved...you will be distressed or hurt on a regular
basis. If, however, you are being rejected by a person who IS highly evolved, I suggest
you continue to work on stopping the rejection. This process will both make you a
better person and bring you a quality relationship.
Note: you must be honest with yourself here. Do not decide to move on simply because
you fear rejection or disappointment.
This is a "You can't fire me, I quit!" approach to relationships. Do not let fear motivate
you when making this decision. Trying to move on because you are pessimistic will only
ensure you will attract another rejection into your life.
Evolved or Unevolved?
I've made up a 12 point checklist you can use to determine whether this person is
evolved or unevolved. An evolved person is one who has the following:
1. He can stay conscious of reality vs. avoiding it
2. He can apologize when wrong
2. He can hear and accept criticism
3. He can assert himself (not passive or aggressive).
4. He can take responsibility (vs. blame)
5. He can experience negative feelings (vs. highly suppressed)
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6. He sets and works towards meaningful goals
7. He is benevolent (has goodwill towards people)
8. He can listen (vs. self-absorbed and narcissistic)
9. He is empathic and compassionate vs. cold
10. He has a sense of humour vs. overly serious (self-pitying)
11. He respects his body vs. addictive and unhealthy
12. He can heal himself of traumas and disappointments