If he actually rejects you, you wind up bitter and confused. How could someone
so ‘giving’ be rejected? On the flip side of the coin, you might become fed up with
neither getting your way nor being appreciated. So, you leave the relationship,
wondering why it is so difficult to find a considerate boss / partner / friend / child /
employee.
By this time, you will find it very difficult to establish new relationships. Having
been “burned” without really understanding why, you will be slow to trust.
Note on Love Languages
“Love language” is the way a person feels loved.7 For example, some people only feel
loved by a romantic partner if there is frequent love-making. Other people feel loved if
you share their favourite activities with them. Still others want you to do things for
them, or spend quality time with them, or express your love verbally. There is an
excellent book on this subject called The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman that
you should read. I’ve found that inappropriate dominance or passiveness becomes an
issue primarily when two people have different love languages. For example, let’s
imagine a husband feels loved primarily through love-making, while his wife prefers
quality time together. If the husband is overly dominant, he may exert his need for lovemaking
while ignoring his wife’s need for quality time. If, however, both people have
basically the same love language, the dominance/passive issue tends to have less impact
on the relationship, because both partners feel loved.
so ‘giving’ be rejected? On the flip side of the coin, you might become fed up with
neither getting your way nor being appreciated. So, you leave the relationship,
wondering why it is so difficult to find a considerate boss / partner / friend / child /
employee.
By this time, you will find it very difficult to establish new relationships. Having
been “burned” without really understanding why, you will be slow to trust.
Note on Love Languages
“Love language” is the way a person feels loved.7 For example, some people only feel
loved by a romantic partner if there is frequent love-making. Other people feel loved if
you share their favourite activities with them. Still others want you to do things for
them, or spend quality time with them, or express your love verbally. There is an
excellent book on this subject called The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman that
you should read. I’ve found that inappropriate dominance or passiveness becomes an
issue primarily when two people have different love languages. For example, let’s
imagine a husband feels loved primarily through love-making, while his wife prefers
quality time together. If the husband is overly dominant, he may exert his need for lovemaking
while ignoring his wife’s need for quality time. If, however, both people have
basically the same love language, the dominance/passive issue tends to have less impact
on the relationship, because both partners feel loved.