I have given you much advice on exactly what to do and say when you have contact with
your ex. However, your ability to act on this advice centers around the strength of your
inner game. Here are some strategies to keep your inner game and confidence strong.
1. Stop being self-righteous
When we are being rejected by another person (romantically or otherwise), we tend to
feel very ashamed, self-critical, and depressed.
This is natural, because we are not winning in the relationship--and we all want to be
adored and respected by others. First, you must stop being so self-righteous. You know
what I mean. When most people are rejected,
they react with disbelief and incredulity.
'What? YOU are rejecting me?'
Then they put the other person down in their mind, insisting they are 'above' this
person. They tell themselves that no one has the right to reject them...that they are
above rejection.
your ex. However, your ability to act on this advice centers around the strength of your
inner game. Here are some strategies to keep your inner game and confidence strong.
1. Stop being self-righteous
When we are being rejected by another person (romantically or otherwise), we tend to
feel very ashamed, self-critical, and depressed.
This is natural, because we are not winning in the relationship--and we all want to be
adored and respected by others. First, you must stop being so self-righteous. You know
what I mean. When most people are rejected,
they react with disbelief and incredulity.
'What? YOU are rejecting me?'
Then they put the other person down in their mind, insisting they are 'above' this
person. They tell themselves that no one has the right to reject them...that they are
above rejection.