70% of all divorces are initiated by the female; this type of imbalance in the
relationship is often the reason. The wife concludes that she cannot have what she
wants and the relationship at the same time. However, the dynamic can work the other
way around (with the wife dominating the husband) just as easily. The second problem
is that when you dominate another person continually, you lose respect for him, and
will eventually take him for granted. The equality needed for mutual admiration simply
does not exist.
Relationship Mistake #3
You Are Inappropriately Passive
The opposite of excessive dominance is passiveness. You habitually let the other
person get his or her way at the expense of your needs. Here are some typical examples:
You pretend to enjoy things you do not like including activities, sports, games,
foods, restaurants, etc. in order to please others.
You hide your opinions on topics such as politics, religion, sports and pop culture so
people will accept you.
You give money, help, and time to people you would rather not.
You engage in nurturing behaviour such as cooking, cleaning, listening, and running
errands for people who do not appreciate it.
You do not ask others for support, time, or listening--even from people you have
supported.
You avoid conflict or difficult conversations at all cost.
You stay in social situations you do not enjoy to avoid hurting others.
You let others control conversations, including their topics and length.
relationship is often the reason. The wife concludes that she cannot have what she
wants and the relationship at the same time. However, the dynamic can work the other
way around (with the wife dominating the husband) just as easily. The second problem
is that when you dominate another person continually, you lose respect for him, and
will eventually take him for granted. The equality needed for mutual admiration simply
does not exist.
Relationship Mistake #3
You Are Inappropriately Passive
The opposite of excessive dominance is passiveness. You habitually let the other
person get his or her way at the expense of your needs. Here are some typical examples:
You pretend to enjoy things you do not like including activities, sports, games,
foods, restaurants, etc. in order to please others.
You hide your opinions on topics such as politics, religion, sports and pop culture so
people will accept you.
You give money, help, and time to people you would rather not.
You engage in nurturing behaviour such as cooking, cleaning, listening, and running
errands for people who do not appreciate it.
You do not ask others for support, time, or listening--even from people you have
supported.
You avoid conflict or difficult conversations at all cost.
You stay in social situations you do not enjoy to avoid hurting others.
You let others control conversations, including their topics and length.